tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post7206104128201784871..comments2023-08-25T14:18:33.262+00:00Comments on Silvern Speeches...: Natural Hair Revolution???Etoile Oyehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09309344971784267369noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-84729557290898392912011-08-06T16:23:51.574+00:002011-08-06T16:23:51.574+00:00@NoOrdinaryGirl: hugs. "People should underst...@NoOrdinaryGirl: hugs. "People should understand the risk connected to relaxers and aggressing is not the right approach!" summarizes it perfectly.<br />@J.M:That's what I thought too. Nice to meet you :)Etoile Oyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09309344971784267369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-63130517748321771792011-08-06T15:17:38.588+00:002011-08-06T15:17:38.588+00:00I agree with you so much... I guess the natural ha...I agree with you so much... I guess the natural hair people have alot of pent up anger..., but the whole 'attack' on those whose hair are permed is not neccessary, why are you speaking out if your aim is not to convert the permed? so because you were 'insulted' for having natural hair, you should do the same? an eye for an eye and everyone goes blind. in the words of india arie '...we are the souls that leave within'J.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317038466328859480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-47291315303857381692011-07-03T10:36:03.465+00:002011-07-03T10:36:03.465+00:00I agree with you!! Name calling is usually counter...I agree with you!! Name calling is usually counter productive and it just makes other more hostile! However this problem is not in the natural hair community alone as there are a lot of relaxed and weave wearing black women who call me names. I say this because it has happened to me in real life and on the internet! I've never called anyone names in my life and the worst I heard was "nigger hair" and coming from a black person it just made me smile. It was a smile of sadness, helplessness because I realized how hard it would be to talk to such a person. no matter how hard I tried she was never going to accept my point of view (why I chose to wear my hair natural). I think you are overlooking the fact that most relaxed/"weaved" black women have always judged and teased the naturals. All my friends from South Africa and Zimbabwe tell me to do "something" with my hair. I'm just not a fan of shiny hair. Even here most African girls I meet ask me why I walk around like "that" and they always ask me "aren't you ashamed". My answer is always: I'm not doing anything wrong or hurting anyone- so no I'm not!<br /><br />My point is that it's not a problem limited to "some" naturals but most relaxed do the same! so it's valid for both sides. People should understand the risk connected to relaxers and aggressing is not the right approach!Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10117491712490203900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-31675692109570643972011-06-05T19:47:43.366+00:002011-06-05T19:47:43.366+00:00Sting I see what you are saying, but at the same t...Sting I see what you are saying, but at the same time, you have relaxed hair, so while you can observe, you don't personally experience the nasty comments that people who actually have natural hair in Nigeria experience or hear from other Nigerians.<br /><br />When I was in Nigeria for my gap year before school, I had natural hair and I worked for an IT company. My boss personally came and told me to leave work and NOT COME BACK until I relaxed my hair or got a weave.<br /><br />If that is not work discrimination I don't know what it because I have never seen any kind of proof that a person's hair can affect their ability to work with computers.<br /><br />I also understand about Nigerians being tactless and I agree that most of the comments we get in the street from everyday people can be attributed to lack of tact, but at the same time there is VERY REAL discrimination in Nigeria against people with natural hair. Discrimination in bank jobs, discrimination at school, discrimination in so many aspects of life that SHOULD NOT be happening and would not be happening if not for the wholesale ignorance of Nigerians.<br /><br />To say that this "is not an issue" and that we should promote unity at the expense of resolving these issues is extremely unfair.Sugabellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17943638849867603413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-21886171771066066922011-06-04T19:57:39.757+00:002011-06-04T19:57:39.757+00:00Yeah this hair debate....i'm not so sure the p...Yeah this hair debate....i'm not so sure the purpose anymore. Everyone should be free to do what they want to do. I've lived in Nigeria where most people perm their hair and the people who didn't were thot to be "deeper life" or something. I didn't see any kind of hate directed towards them because they didn't perm their hair. <br /><br />Nigerians are tactless anyway and i'm sure just the way they have no qualms commenting on how fat someone is, they would also have no problem asking why you won't perm your hair. If you are natural, you just have to take it with a grain of salt, the way fat pple do. Sorry. <br /><br />I don't see the need for this fight and division, i see going on.NaijaScorpiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15375583469985472050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-91197398893757874862011-06-04T17:23:03.817+00:002011-06-04T17:23:03.817+00:00Sugabelly, I am not Nigerian, have not lived there...Sugabelly, I am not Nigerian, have not lived there and so cannot speak for Nigeria. Just like you would base your perception of relaxed haired people on your personal experience and what you have heard from others, there are relaxed haired people who can tell the same stories. All I am saying is, love and patience wins. I am all for speaking out. I am pointing out that in speaking out, your tone and attitude can be counter-productive to your goals. Unless there is none, in which case, I stand corrected.Etoile Oyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09309344971784267369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81325045888657241.post-23262623986102957092011-06-04T15:57:06.450+00:002011-06-04T15:57:06.450+00:00I think that after years and years of abusing natu...I think that after years and years of abusing natural haired Nigerians, relaxed haired Nigerians now feel uncomfortable now that naturals are speaking up and want them to be silenced. <br /><br />How is any of "namecalling" you have highlighted here any different from the relentless harassment that relaxed haired Nigerians have heaped on (and continue to heap on ) natural haired Nigerians to this day?<br /><br />I think a lot of people are under the misconception that natural haired people are out to "convert" others. Nobody can make the choice to stop relaxing for you no matter what they say. Natural haired Nigerians have a right to voice their opinions and to voice their anger about their poor treatment by their fellow Nigerians. If it turns you off that's an unfortunate side effect but I don't think that people should stay silent just so that they can avoid looking like "troublemakers".<br /><br />And if relaxed heads finally feel uncomfortable, then at least now they are aware of the extremely unpleasant daily reality of a natural haired person in Nigeria.Sugabellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17943638849867603413noreply@blogger.com